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While it is not a major psychological condition or syndrome; that is, a diagnosis found in The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders-IV, procrastination is still destructive, psychologically. It can create mild symptoms or some that are chronic, even life-stopping. Regardless, procrastination is something that can be worked with.
Procrastination is really a form of ambivalence. This is not widely known. Ambivalence is when part of you wants something and part of your doesn't want that something. It doesn't have to be two things that directly disagree. One of the "somethings" can be related to the other, just not the same, requiring a choice that [link widoczny dla zalogowanych] is, at least partially, mutually exclusive. Ambivalence can be in conscious, partially in awareness or totally out of awareness. This is unimportant, because the subjective experience of it is anxiety. actually creates anxiety, but it is of the kind that is not usually allied with other clinical syndromes, proper.
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I usually pick the more congenial, self-serving behavior, which necessarily means I'm putting off choosing the "other." This looks to be procrastinating, because I'm not doing something, but in reality I'm maneuvering around a conflict. I am ambivalent, experiencing some level of apprehension and trying side-step the whole thing.
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In order to unravel procrastination, we have to penetrate the ambivalence. We have to "excavate" into awareness, the fullramificationsof our choices. But for most of us, to do that means we also have to do a little self-questioning and self-answering. You see, ambivalence doesn't just occupy one and only one space in our heads. There are reasons we avoid certain things, other than they may or may not be more tiring to do than something else. Sometimes it's about not wanting to express a reaction or feeling, such as sadness. If someone asks you to do something and you feel put [link widoczny dla zalogowanych] upon, it is doubtful you will accommodate with their request. So, you don't, at least superficially, which is about not dealing with [link widoczny dla zalogowanych] your inward state, expressing yourself and later fixing ambivalence. The superficial behavior then looks like procrastinating, when in fact, its just about avoiding conflict (which is probably at the heart of ambivalence in most cases).
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-Dr. Griggs

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