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There are also two situations around forgiving infidelity and the first one is where the one who had the affair is extremely remorseful and they ask for your forgiveness and let me tell you, this makes forgiving infidelity much easier. The second is when the one who had the affair is not sorry in the least that they did and this [link widoczny dla zalogowanych] makes it very difficult to forgive them, yet it is still extremely important that you do because you forgive for your benefit, not theirs and doing so will let you to not allow them to ruin your future or your past.

It is also very important that you realize that forgiving infidelity is a process and that is has nothing [link widoczny dla zalogowanych] to do with forgetting. Forgiving means that when we do remember the past and the affair, the memory no longer has the pain and heartache attached to it. You must also remember that your feelings FOLLOW your thoughts. You have to capability to control what you think about. Forgiving infidelity is a choice and when you choose to forgive your spouse, at the [link widoczny dla zalogowanych] beginning your feelings probably won't agree with that choice.

When it comes to infidelity, what has been done can't be undone. The purity of the marriage has died and will never come back. Forgiving infidelity is a choice I made to let go of my bitterness, resentment, anger and my right to keep punishing my [link widoczny dla zalogowanych] husband for what he did to me. Yet, forgiveness doesn't mean that [link widoczny dla zalogowanych] I will let him to continue or ever mistreat me. I worked on daily making it a very conscious effort to forgive him and sometimes I forgave him a hundred times a day. I wouldn't [link widoczny dla zalogowanych] allow myself to dwell on the negative thoughts and make myself think of more [link widoczny dla zalogowanych] positive ones and focus on how he was behaving today instead of how he behaved in the past. It did take a long time but it was worth the effort and I am finally at peace. Forgiving infidelity takes effort and time.
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